Senior Dating Rules: Should you talk about your former spouse?

One of the most important dating rules is to avoid talking about your exes.
However, with senior dating, you’ve probably been married for a long time but
became widowed or a widower. So, how do you approach this topic without ruining
your senior date?

The topic of your late husband or wife is bound to come up in senior dating.
However, it can be approached with discretion and care. For example, you can
ask: “How long have you been single” instead of “When did your husband die?” If
possible, it is best to avoid the topic of former spouses entirely on a first
senior date. You should wait until you and your senior date have found a common
interest before moving on to sensitive areas of conversation.

Once you are in a senior dating relationship with someone, the issue of late
spouses will likely come up on occasions. It is important to be patient and
respectful when dating widows or widowers on senior dating. Keep in mind that
grief is a process and we each deal with it in our own way. Allow your senior
match to grieve and acknowledge anniversaries of that deceased. After all, when
you start a senior relationship, you are taking in the past along with the
future.